Make room for two perspectives
Translate a thread into possible needs on both sides. Send an invite link so your partner or friend can add their own perspective, if they choose.
Subtext / Two-sided attachment translator
Less guessing.
More understanding.
Mixed signals don’t have to become an overthinking spiral. Explore what each of you might need, notice the loop, and find a calmer way to reply.
For partners and friends. Start free; unlimited threads for $6/month.
A different question
Not “who’s wrong?”
“What do we each need?”
Understanding, without labels.
Needs, not diagnosesConsent before their sideBoth perspectives matter
From subtext to next steps
Same loop.
New way through.
The topic changes. The tension feels familiar. Look beyond the latest message to the needs underneath it—without deciding someone’s attachment style for them.
Illustrative translation
“Fine. We’ll talk later.”
One person might need space. The other might need reassurance that the conversation isn’t over.
A calmer draft: “I can give you space. Could we choose a time to come back to this?”
Notice the pattern, not just the message
Explore recurring thread patterns: reaching for closeness, pulling back, or missing each other’s signals. Different topics can hide the same loop.
Reply from a calmer place
Use secure reply drafts to express a need, set a boundary, or ask a clearer question. Edit the words until they sound like you.
Share the insight, not the identities
Turn an insight into a shareable card or anonymous screenshot. Check what you share and get consent before including someone else’s conversation.
A tool for reflection, not a diagnosis or a substitute for professional support. Suggested needs are possibilities—not facts about another person.
A little clarity goes a long way
Start free. Keep the conversation going.
Try Attachment theory translate for free. For ongoing reflection, unlock unlimited threads for $6/month.
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Pause the spiral
Before you reply, find the need.
Bring one thread. Leave with another way to see it.